Thursday, 23 April 2015

Tag post - Life lessons in a letter... Advice for my children

Photo courtesy of Renaye Mclachlan Photography 

Everyone wants what's best for their child. No one wants their children to repeat their own mistakes, so having a child is almost like a second chance - a do over so to speak. Of course they are bound to make their own mistakes and hopefully they'll learn from them, it is merely a part of life. However, if I have the slightest chance of possibly steering Ella down a different path to what I went down then I'd like to try.

I'm not saying I'm not happy with how my life turned out, absolutely not. If I hadn't gone down the path I've chosen I wouldn't have met my amazing Husband or had my beautiful little girl but there are a few things I would have like to have done differently.

Dear Ella,

Firstly, let me say how lucky I am to be your Mum - when I held you in my arms for the first time I couldn't believe how perfect you were, from the little hairs on your head to your chubby little cheeks down to your 10 perfect little toes. I instantly fell in love with you! Having you felt and still feels so surreal, to think we created you - that's a story for another day - is an amazing feeling. 

Your Dad and I, before we had you, always talked about our hopes and dreams for our children. Now that you are finally here we want to make sure that you have a chance at not only following your own hopes and dreams, but learning from the life we have already lived.

So here goes, dream big! No dream is too big or small! If you can dream it then do it and be confident in yourself and your abilities - never doubt yourself.

Stay in school - work hard, find something you love and go to University. It's ones of my biggest regrets that I don't have a career or a qualification. Do what you love - life is too short to be unhappy!

Be kind to people and don't judge, you don't know them until you've walked a mile in their shoes. You never know what someone is going through or what their story is, be polite, be kind and smile. A smile can make someones day.

Put yourself out there and take every opportunity handed to you - you never know what it might lead to. Don't be afraid to take a chance.

Surround yourself with people who you love and who love you in return, people who care for you and want you to succeed in life and have nothing but your best interests at heart. Look after those people and keep in touch - make the effort!

Last but not least, and most importantly - fall in love with someone who treats you with respect, makes you laugh, takes care of you and will go to the ends of the earth for you. Pick and choose your battles - some things are just not worth arguing over.

You are beautiful, intelligent and perfect the way you are - don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Be proud of yourself and your achievements and don't compare yourself to others, you are unique.

If you're ever in doubt, upset, need advice or if you just need a hug we will always be there to love and support you - no matter what path you take or what decisions you make. 


Your Mum and Dad.

I've decided to turn this into a bit of a tag post and I want to nominate a few fellow kiwi bloggers but it's open to anyone who wants to do this too.

Lets see if we can pass this on.

1. Write a letter to your child or future children offering advice and encouragement.

2. Anyone can join, please use the grab button below in the post so others can link back here to the original post.

3. Tag some fellow bloggers in your post and on social media - so they know they've been tagged - adding the link to your own post.

4. Add the name of the person you were tagged by and their blog link.

5. Comment on this post with a link to your letter - so I can read it!

Go for it!

I tag...

Lydia from Always Made With Love
Karen from Mummy Do It
Jasmine from A Gathering
Charlene from Teacher by trade - Mother by nature
Claire from Girl On A Mission

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1 comment:

  1. Thanks for the tag - here's my one :-)